The shock of a neighbor seeing results in less than 10 days

     What an absolute joy it is when I see my techniques working and the look of shock of parents faces in the communities I work. I was recently working with a couple of boys 6 and 9 years old and it was my 9th day. They were needing structure and consistency set up in the home. If you've read my book you know that when I start building a relationship with the children I begin from the start explaining to them that I will ask them to do something one time and it's important they follow  through. Depending on what they have been taught it may take a few days for this to sink in with an individual child, but when they see that I follow through with an immediate consequence that they already know will come because I've explained it to them they begin to focus and listen and follow through with my requests.
    These two boys I had been working with in Northern California are use to negotiating with anybody and everybody who's working with them. This can be a great thing to master in certain areas of life, but if you're teaching your child to manipulate situations life will be tough for them later on and it's wrong to reinforce your child to do this.
    In this particular case I was at the bus stop with these two boys. David was taking a tennis ball to school so he could play with it at recess. He put the ball in his backpack upon leaving the house. He decided to take the ball out when he got to the bus stop and guess what happened? That's right ! The kids got out of control and chaos occurred. So I called his name and asked, David, what is the purpose of you having the tennis ball? He answered me by saying, "So I can play with it at school during recess." I agreed that this was correct and he should put it back in his backpack until that time. He immediately followed through no questions asked. Another Mom was standing beside me and her eyes just popped in surprise and tried to say something, but couldn't find the words. I smiled looking at her and said that looks like a state of shock. She said, "I've never seen these children respond this way with anyone." She had purchased a copy of my book just a couple of days before. I told her I explained the techniques in the book and she said, I'm getting there I'm only on Chapter 2. I laughed and said all things are possible and you can get your child to say Yes! I Can! & I Will!